Frequently Asked Questions

How are you doing?

This is the most common question that I get, and it is a hard one to answer. My most common answer to this question is “I’m doing well” or "I'm doing okay." That doesn’t mean, though, that I am physically feeling well. To be honest, I never feel well. I am always tired, always weak, and always sleepy. In addition to that, I have any combination of the following: headache, nausea, tachycardia, blood pressure that is plummeting, blurred vision, numb fingers, pain, sensory overload, difficulty thinking, memory problems, shortness of breath, dizziness, lightheadedness, and many more symptoms.

In a way my answer to the question, “How are you feeling?” would be, “I am feeling awful.” Truly, I am feeling awful. Some days are just less awful than others. It would bore people (myself included) to always say how I am feeling physically. Plus, to be honest, I prefer not to think about my constant ailments. I’m not in denial; it’s just that these symptoms are now “normal” for me anyway. It is best to just think of them as such and keep on living life.

So what do I actually mean when I say I’m doing well? I mean that in every way besides physically, I am doing well. I am content with the life God has given me, even with the physical struggles. I am happy to be alive, to be able to smile and talk with others. I am enjoying my husband, son, and daughter, my family and friends. I am pleased to be able to do the things I can do. I am thankful for the many blessings God has given me. I am grateful for God’s great love for me. Even amidst the trials of life I can say with the hymn writer, “It is well with my soul.”

What do you have?

I have been diagnosed with dysautonomia, a dysfunction of the autonomic nervous system, which controls all of the automatic functions of the body. Basically, my internal regulator of everything (heart rate, blood pressure, temperature, energy production, sensory perception, etc.) is not regulating properly. This causes a wide variety of debilitating symptoms.

I have gastroparesis, which is a partial to full paralysis of the stomach. Thankfully, my stomach is only partially paralyzed. I am still able to eat, but I have to make sure that I do not eat too much fiber or fat, which slow digestion. I am on a low fat, low fiber diet. Occasionally I will have "gastroparesis flares" and I have to go to a soft foods (ie, pudding) and liquid diet for a few days. It can be hard to get the calories and nutrients I need during this time. Usually it only lasts a few days, though, and then I am able to go back to my regular low fat, low fiber diet.

Through a few sleep studies, we found that I have three different sleep disorders: insomnia, hypersomnia, and alpha-delta sleep. Most people are familiar with insomnia. It means that I have a hard time falling asleep and staying asleep. I take melatonin nightly to make it easier for me to sleep. I also have hypersomnia. That means that no matter how much I sleep, I am still sleepy! Alpha-delta sleep is also known as alpha intrusions. When I am sleeping I have too much alpha brain wave activity, which leads to non-restorative sleep. That means that I am sleeping, but my brain waves are continuing as if I am awake. I never wake up in the morning feeling refreshed; I feel just as tired and sleepy as when I went to bed.

I have EDS III (Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome Type Three). This is a genetic problem, and it means that I have faulty collagen. Collagen is a protein that adds strength and elasticity to connective tissues. It holds joints and skin together. Some of the symptoms I have as a result of this are loose and hypermobile joints, joint pain, poor wound healing, and a heart murmur that comes and goes. One of the problems with hypermobility syndrome is that veins can be too elastic, allowing blood to pool in the legs, arms, and abdomen. This has not caused my dysautonomia, but it does exacerbate the symptoms of blood pooling that I already have. Hypermobility is not life threatening. Not everyone who is hypermobile has true hypermobility/EDS III, and not all who have hypermobility/EDS III have dysautonomia.

My doctors believe that I have a mitochondrial disease (Mito for short) as a root cause for most of my health problems. Mitochondrial disease would not cause the hypermobility that I have, but it could be the root cause of everything else (dysautonomia, gastroparesis, and sleep disorders). There are many types of mitochondrial diseases, and they are generally considered progressive. I am hoping that I will one day have the opportunity to finish the testing process for Mito. If you would like to read about what a mitochondrial disease is, here is a good place to start: What Is Mitochondrial Disease?

How long have you had dysautonomia?

I think I have had dysautonomia since I was about 10 years old. That is when I first had unexplained symptoms of nausea and vomiting. My health problems didn’t flare up badly, though, until I was 14, and I was diagnosed with dysautonomia at the age of 15. EDS III is a genetic condition that I have had since birth. Although it is not the primary cause of my dysautonomia, it does exacerbate my symptom of blood pooling.

Is your health getting any better?
My health has its ups and downs, but in general, no, it isn’t getting any better. You may hear me mention recovering from my crash in the fall of 2010, but this doesn’t mean recovering back to being healthy or even recovering back to my previous baseline from the summer of 2010. I have not been able to get back to feeling as "good" as I did that summer. I had a small "crash" in the spring of 2014 which you will also see me talk about on my blog. I never had a chance to recover completely from the crash of 2014. I had a difficult few months in the summer of 2015, which has set me back a lot. I lost a lot of spoons and am working on regaining as much strength and energy as I can. There are ups and downs, but overall my health is not getting better, and it isn’t expected to do so.

What is your long term prognosis? Will this get better or worse? Is it life threatening?

It is hard to say what my health will be like long term. There is still much that is unknown about dysautonomia. Apart from a miracle I will have dysautonomia for the rest of my life. If it turns out that the root cause of my dysautonomia is indeed a mitochondrial disease, then my condition will likely progress until it is fatal. That could be 5 years away; it could be 45 years. We really don't know, but my life is still in the Lord's hands, right where it always was.

My long term prognosis may seem bleak, but God has a purpose even in this. God is sovereign, and He is able to heal me. However, He does not have to heal me. He is God! It may be that He has a better plan for me that involves dysautonomia and mitochondrial disease. God can use even this for my good and for His glory.

Why do you not like the heat?

My body does not tolerate heat well at all anymore. When I was growing up in Virginia I loved to go to the pool on a summer afternoon. I’d play in the heat and not think anything of it. Now, however, my body does not regulate temperature properly. Even if I am having a good day, once I am in the heat I will crash quickly. Anything above 72 degrees is extra tiring for me, and the hotter it is the more quickly it tires me out. If I am in the sun I cannot tolerate temperatures above 65 degrees very well.

I wear a cooling vest when we go out if the temperature is above 75 degrees. This helps some, but doesn’t come close to fixing my heat intolerance. One of the problems with heat is that it dilates your blood vessels. The blood vessels in a person's legs and abdomen are supposed to constrict when she is upright in order to combat gravity and keep blood flowing to the heart, lungs, and brain. My blood vessels, however, do not constrict well. Being in the heat causes them to constrict even less, and blood pools rapidly in my legs. I very quickly become nauseated, dizzy, lightheaded, weak, tired, and confused. Lack of sufficient blood flow makes one feel miserable!

If I have to go out when it is hot, I will pay for it for several days afterward. We take every precaution we can. This includes using a wheelchair, wearing a cooling vest, wearing ice around my neck, and cooling the van before I go out, but I still don’t do well. Just the brief trip in the heat from a handicap parking spot into the store or doctor’s office will wipe me out. It may take a week to recover from the few minutes here and there in 85 degree heat. If it is above 80 degrees outside it is best for me to not leave the house at all.

What do you do during the day?

I currently wake up around 11:00 am. My body doesn’t move too well first thing in the morning, so I usually stay in bed until 1:00 or later. During this time I eat breakfast in bed, study my Bible, read, blog, and/or work on email.

In the afternoons, if I am able, I take care of paperwork, paying bills, online shopping, and keeping things organized around the house. I spend time with William and Adelaide when they get home from school. We have about two hours together before Will gets home from work, and those two hours wear me out! I usually have to go to bed shortly after Will gets home.

On most evenings I am in bed by 6:30. Will brings supper to me in bed. He stays up with the children, puts them to bed, and takes care of doing the dishes and tidying up the house.

While in bed in the evening I work on email, crocheting, or blogging. I catch up with friends on Facebook, and I read books. If I am really tired, then I just watch television and save productivity for another day.

I used to try to go to church every Sunday, but I haven’t been able to do that regularly since 2009. It has been nearly 2 years since I have been able to go to a morning church service. I used to be able to attend evening services once or twice a month, but because of migraines and intense fatigue, that is not currently possible.

When I have the opportunity I like to get out of the house. This usually happens once every 4-6 weeks if the weather is good and if I'm feeling up for it. Sometimes I will join the family on a Wal-Mart shopping trip. Other times I simply enjoy a brief outing to a restaurant. When the weather is nice I like to sit outside in my reclining chair to enjoy the fresh air and flowers.

What exactly are your symptoms?

On any given day, I have some combination of the following symptoms:

• Tachycardia
• Lightheadedness
• Dizziness
• Muscle weakness
• Loss of balance and coordination, especially in the morning or when I am extremely tired
• Fatigue
• Post-Exertional Malaise
• Blurry vision
• Excellent hearing, but difficulty understanding
• Fainting/near fainting
• Headaches and migraines
• Shortness of breath
• Cognitive difficulties (memory problems, difficulty following conversations, slow information processing, general "brain fog")
• Blood pooling in limbs
• Intolerance to heat
• Burning feet
• Low blood pressure
• Hypoglycemia
• Sleep disorders
• Numb/tingling fingers and toes
• Back pain
• Aching neck and shoulders
• Nausea
• Disequilibrium
• Sensory overload
• Loss of appetite
• Sensitivities to some foods
• Excessive thirst
• Joint pain

How do you feel at your best?

On a good day for me, I still have most of the above symptoms; they just aren’t as severe. I am very tired and weak, but my body doesn’t give out as quickly. On a good day I can walk around the house as I need to. I can crochet. I can play on the floor with William and Adelaide if I am lying down. I can think clearly enough to read a book. Even on a good day, though, I still need my wheelchair to leave the house. I still need to lie down and rest in the afternoon, and I still need to rest after a shower in the evening. A good day has to have rest time, otherwise it won’t be a good day for very long.

How do you feel at your worst?

At my very worst I cannot get out of bed until 3 or 4 in the afternoon, and sometimes I don’t get out of bed at all except for bathroom trips. My legs are weak, shaky, and uncoordinated. My muscles burn as if I am lifting weights even when completely at rest. I need to lie down almost all day due to extreme fatigue, muscle weakness, and danger of falling. It is impossible to even stay in my wheelchair for more than about 15 minutes. Noise, touch, and bright lights are overwhelming. I am nauseated, especially if I lie on my back. When I lie down with my eyes closed I feel like I’m rocking in a boat. I may or may not ever get a sense of hunger. I have great difficulty understanding things, remembering what question I just asked or what answer was given. I get my words all mixed up when I talk. Lightheadedness, dizziness, fatigue, weakness, and blood pooling are severe.

Can dysautonomia be passed on to William and Adelaide?

If I have a mitochondrial disease, it is possible that this could be passed on to one or both of our children. We would have to know exactly which type I have, though, before it could be determined if William and Adelaide are at risk for getting a mitochondrial disease. If I do have “just” dysautonomia it is still possible that it could be passed on. There is sometimes a genetic connection with dysautonomia in families.

How do you take care of William and Adelaide?

I have a lot of help from Will, my family, and friends. I also have a lot of help from William and Adelaide now! It has become much easier to take care of them now that they are 7 and 11 years old. They can get their own breakfast and lunch. They can get food or water for me if I need them to. They also help me with various tasks around the house.

William and Adelaide are both very helpful and understanding when I am not feeling well. They will play by themselves, visit me quietly for a just a few minutes in my bedroom, and/or watch a movie with me on the bad days.

Here are some "Day in the Life" posts that will give you a better idea of how, with help, I took care of William and Adelaide when they were younger.

- A Day in the Life (2017)
- A Day in the Life (2014)
- A Good Day
- A Bad Day

Why do you carry around a water bottle?

I am supposed to drink lots of fluids (and eat lots of salt). This helps my body to retain fluids, which helps to build blood volume. An increased blood volume means a higher blood pressure, lower pulse, and more blood to circulate to my heart, brain, and other vital organs.

What are the thick stockings for?

I have to wear compression stockings to help squeeze the blood out of my legs. Even with drinking lots of fluids and taking a medicine that aids in vasoconstriction, I still have a significant amount of blood pooling in my legs. Besides being painful, it prevents an adequate supply of blood from reaching my heart and brain. The stockings help to keep the excess blood from pooling. You can see pictures of the blood pooling here.

Why do you sit in a recliner during church?

Part of the reason for this is related to the blood pooling in my legs. Compression stockings, fluids, and my medicine still only partially helps blood flow. I prop my feet up in the recliner so that I don’t have too much blood pooling in my legs. If too much blood pools I will faint.

I also have to sit in a recliner because I do not have the physical strength to safely hold myself in a sitting position for more fifteen minutes.  In the past I often had to leave church early, or was unable to make it at all, simply because I could not continue to sit. Using a recliner enables me to make it through a whole church service.

Why do you sometimes have difficulty with conversation?

One of my symptoms is cognitive difficulty (aka “brain fog”), which manifests itself in many different ways. I have short term memory difficulty. I’ll ask Will a question and then one minute later either can’t remember what he said, can’t remember what I asked, or can’t even remember that I asked anything. I can be easily confused and have difficulty processing information. Will might ask what I want to eat on my salad and I’ll be thinking in my mind, “What….do…..I….want….to….eat….on….my….salad?” I literally repeat the whole question very slowly in my mind. I’ve become very aware of each step in the mental process. I have to figure out what words were said, what they each mean, what they mean together, and then figure out my answer.

Sometimes I’ll have difficulty with word recall for simple everyday words. Other times I will switch my words all up and say the opposite of what I mean. So if I say something that totally doesn’t make sense, just ignore it!

It is hard for me to follow long conversations, especially long phone conversations or conversations in a noisy room. If I keep saying, “Huh?” or “I’m sorry, would you repeat that?” please don’t be offended. It is either because I’m having difficulty keeping up or because I can’t separate the words from background noise in the room.

Sometimes the brain fog is barely noticeable, while other times it is a big obstacle. If I rest or get some extra sleep then the brain fog clears away mostly. Brain fog is the reason I like simple tv shows like I Dream of Jeannie. There isn’t much of a plot to figure out. It is easy to watch!

What have you learned through all of this?

This is a big question! I could go on and on and write a book. Maybe someday I will, but for now I’ll try to summarize.

God has taught me a lot over the years with dysautonomia. One of the things that I have learned is to be content with my health and physical limitations. It would be great to be able to walk, climb, and run again, but there is much more to life than physical strength and energy. Besides, I really don’t have it so bad. There are some people in the world who are more disabled than I, but don’t have anyone to take care of them. I have been blessed with a wonderful husband, son, daughter, and family to help me. I have a wheelchair and a comfortable bed at night. Many people don’t have that.

I have learned that I need to embrace this life that God has given me, not simply be content with it. Because of what we have been through, God can use Will and me in ways that He couldn’t if my health were good.

I have learned that God has a plan and a purpose even in suffering. He can use my dysautonomia for my good and for His glory. God is at work and He has a plan that is far better than anything we can imagine! There are things that God has taught me that I wouldn’t have learned were it not for what I’ve been through because of my health. Sometimes we have to take the painful road to learn, but if it brings us closer to God then it is worth every step of the way.

I have learned more about God’s sovereignty. Yes, God is sovereign and He could heal me if He chose to do so. However, since God is sovereign, He is under no obligation to heal me. He is God! He can do whatever pleases Him and brings Him glory. We often put God in a little box and think of Him as simply someone from Whom to ask favors. However, we need to keep in mind that God is so much bigger than we can understand. He is completely holy, all powerful, all knowing, and all wise. God is in control. He is not bound by time. He is above all. He is worthy of all praise, honor, and glory. God is also loving, patient, gracious and He longs to hear from His children. He wants us to pray to Him, but when we do, let’s not forget Who we are talking to! We are talking to the Maker and Sustainer of the Universe!

I have learned that I can trust God no matter what. There are a lot of unknowns that come along with living with dysautonomia. So far treatment hasn't produced any dramatic improvement in my health. Barring a miracle I will probably be disabled for the rest of my life. But that is okay. I want whatever God's will is for me. I want God to be glorified in my life whether I am sick or healthy. If living a life with severe dysautonomia will bring the most glory to God, then so be it. After considering all He has done for me, suffering a little bit with dysautonomia for a few years on earth is a small sacrifice to make. God made the ultimate sacrifice for me when He sent His Son to die on the cross. Jesus died a horrible death. The situation was not good, but God used it for great good - the salvation of all who believe!!! Jesus knows what suffering is. God knows what sacrifice is. I can certainly trust Him to know what He is doing in my life. It is worth following God and obeying Him at any cost.


  1. I am so glad you explained the mental fog! I have a very hard time with this and no one seems to understand. I was beginning to think I was going crazy.

  2. Thank you! I appreciate the fact that someone else understands. It has been so nice to "meet" you on here. I will pray for you. Keep the faith!

    Shauna Chance

  3. Thank You! I felt like someone reach inside of me and wrote the words I want to say. I myself am a 'mito' fighter. I have had a long list of very odd symptoms since the age of 10 and at 40 they started to piece it together. It is a very hard thing to explain to others.

    Thanks again!

    Annette Brown
    Pennsylvania with MCAD/SCAD

  4. Hi Annette,

    Thanks so much for taking the time to read my blog. I'm glad that the words I wrote could be the words that you wanted to say! It is hard to describe dysautonomia and/or mito. They are such complicated illnesses! Keep on fighting mito! And know that you are always welcome here at Cranberry Tea Time.


  5. I would love to get into blogging but don't really know where to begin lo. would love to talk with you I was diagnosed with POTS in my early 20's. I also have SVT. I have been on Metaprolol sp? and Nitro-Stat for years. Thee are so few with our condition that my cardiologist has only seen around 4 cases of this and I am his youngest. Many blessings and prayers to you:)


  6. Praying for you tonight, sweet sister. I had gastropareisis last year for several months after having my gall bladder removed the old fashioned way... when I read that word here in your list of symptoms, my heart jumped.

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. Blessings to you as you keep walking in faith.

  7. Thanks for sharing your story! I don't know why I haven't found your blog before. I was diagnosed with POTS almost two years ago and have read and researched everything I could get my hands on. I also have HEDS. My condition has improved so much since I began seeing Dr. Suleman in Dallas. I was where you are when I was diagnosed, and now, with salt tablets, lots of water, daily exercise (mild!) and supplements like magnesium, I feel about an 8 out of 10 most days! Praise the Lord! We still have so much to be thankful for, don't we?


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